Wednesday, October 14, 2015

October 15, 2015

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.”  Galatians 6:2-5

If you wonder, “Where did America begin to go wrong?” you can begin here with a misunderstanding or disregard of this Scriptural principle.

Biblical wisdom offered by Paul and inspired by the Holy Spirit says each of us must carry our own load but when the load gets too heavy we should be available to help lift the load for a while.

That is Christian love and compassion. That builds healthy relationships, healthy fellowships, healthy families and healthy people.

As I shared in the previous post, the Greek word used in these verses is a shipping term. A “load” denotes the capacity of a ship. So, when the entire capacity of a ship is filled with cargo that ship is said to be carrying its “load”. However, if more is added to that ship it will be burdened and becomes in danger of sinking. If that should happen then another ship would come next to it and help bear the burden of the load by taking on some of the cargo.

That used to be the norm for our American culture. Each American was expected to carry his own load. As a result each American developed a self-sufficiency and independence that led to citizens that were strong and proud. When a neighbor or family member became overloaded and burdened they would come alongside them to help bear the burden.

However, when that principle is not honored and people begin picking up the load of others in a misguided effort to help others they hurt them rather than helping them. When a person is not allowed or not expected to carry his own load his capacity for load carrying is diminished. Rather than becoming stronger and increasing his capacity for carry life’s demands he loses that capacity and becomes easily over loaded. In addition, the well-meaning person in trying to carry the load for another becomes unable to bear his own load.
Multiply that across scores of families in scores of cities and towns across the 50 States of America and it totals up to overloaded people, families stressed to the breaking point and thousands of needy people.

As people and families and towns and cities and states become overwhelmed, political leaders see an opportunity to expand their power by offering government assistance in carrying their load. But since government has not resources other than what they take from their citizens via taxes and fees, the financial load increases for everyone. It doesn’t take long for government to become larger and stronger while the citizens become weaker and more dependent.

Rather than developing Home Run People you have a system that develops strike out people.

When this Biblical principle is applied in individual lives, in families and in communities you have the benefits of Christian living. You have strong people and satisfied people.

But when you violate this principle in the ways mentioned above you have socialism or even communism.

As I have listened to the Presidential Candidates debates from both parties I have heard the candidates offering more promises of how they will use government to carry more of the load for individual citizens. Never mind a mounting debt over $19,000,000,000 and growing annual budget deficits continue to promise more. The increasingly more dependent citizens grow weaker and the State rapidly gains strength and dominance over those individuals. With every promise of security comes increased dependence and reduced freedom.

“What can I do about this?” you may be wondering. One thing you can do is Raise Home Run Kids! Take to heart the teachings of the last several weeks and apply them to your child rearing. Cultures are restored one healthy family at a time and one healthy church fellowship at a time!

Carry you own load. Raise children who are taught to carry their own load. Connect with a church fellowship that can encourage you and carry your burdens when necessary.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

October 14, 2015

If you never hear another of my sermons make sure you don’t miss this Sunday’s message! This will be one of the most practical and helpful messages I have shared about parenting. I will challenge you with three courageous decisions facing parents who wish to Raise Home Run Kids. Yesterday I posted the first courageous decision: To Guide Your Child’s Heart.

Today I share the second courageous decision: Don’t Carry Your Kid’s Load.

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.  If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.Galatians 6:2-5

The apparent contradiction – “carry each other’s burden – BUT – carry own load” – WHAT?

Here’s the answer:

Both of these words in the Greek are shipping terms……

“LOAD” = THE SHIP’S CAPACITY
“BURDEN” = A SHIP OVERLOADED

A ship is usually loaded to its capacity. When it is filled to its capacity a ship can carry its load. But if it is overloaded or if the load shifts it is endangered on the sea. It will send out a distress signal and the nearest ship will come alongside to help relieve its burden.

You have a load to carry, I have a load to carry, you are not called to carry my load nor am I called to carry your load. But occasionally you get overloaded and I need to come along side and help carry your burden. You are to do the same for me!

This is what you are called to do for your kid and his parent. You are NOT to carry his load but you SHOULD be available to come along side in those rare times he may be overloaded.

A KEY ROLE OF A PARENT IS TO WORK WITH GOD TO INCREASE YOUR KID’S CAPACITY FOR CARRYING THE LOAD OF HIS LIFE. THAT TAKES COURAGE BECAUSE THE HEART OF A PARENT WANTS TO CARRY THAT LOAD FOR YOUR KID.

CAPACITY IS INCREASED BY THE CHALLENGES LIFE BRINGS!

Maturity = increasing your capacity for load carrying

ATTENTION KIDS: You may want your parents to carry your load but you shouldn’t expect them to. If you allow your parents to “rescue you” and carry your load you will hurt yourself by remaining dependent upon them. What comforts you now will only cripple you later.
  • JOB/CAREER – If you can’t carry your work load in your workplace during your career you will lose your job!
  • RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE - If you don't carry your own load in a relationship you will not have a healthy relationship!
  • SPIRITUALITY/CHURCH - If you don't carry your load God won't be able to use you or cause you to grow!
LEARN TO CARRY YOUR OWN LOAD!

You may be wondering, what is my load? What is my kid’s load?

INFANT STAGE

Parent’s Load – To create an environment of love, security and a
Kid’s Load – To be loved, blessed and secure

TODDLER/PRESCHOOL

Parent’s Load – To create a climate of consequence
Kid’s Load – To learn respect and obedience

ELEMENTARY SCHOOL YEARS

Parent’s Load – To create an environment of personal responsibility and achievement.
Kid’s Load – To manage increasingly complex calendar, workload and relationships

Examples:
·         Who is responsible to make sure your kid gets to the bus stop on time in the morning?
·         Who is responsible to make sure homework assignments and deadlines are clear?
·         Who is responsible to complete homework assignments on time as assigned?

Key Question From Parent To Kid – What are you going to do about it?

TEEN YEARS

Parent’s Load – To create an environment of openness and acceptance.
Kid’s Load – To develop a healthy identity larger than the family.

Parents, if you do the previous stages well this stage can be a joy, if not and if you have to play catch up this stage will be difficult.

YOUNG ADULT YEARS AND BEYOND

Parent’s Load – To create an environment of honor
Kid’s Load – To set a healthy trajectory for life

It is during these years your kid will make the three major life decisions

MASTER – Who will I serve?
MISSION – What will I do with my life?
MATE – Who will I share my life with?

What stage of life does your kid find himself right now?

What courageous decision(s) must you make?


October 13, 2015

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.Proverbs 4:23

There is the old story about the strong-willed boy who was acting up and was told by his mother to go sit in the corner. When he ignored her his father stood and sternly commanded him to the corner. As he begrudgingly made his way to place of his punishment he muttered under his breather, “I’m may be sitting down on the outside but I’m standing up on the inside!”

Humorous as that may be it illustrates the truth of my first point for the final message on Raising Home Run Kids, GUIDE YOUR KID’S HEART.

It’s good to be mindful that bringing your kid’s behavior into compliance or conformity with your demand is one thing but it doesn’t necessarily mean you have dented his will.

Courageous parenting is not just correcting his behavioral while he is under your roof but it is capturing his heart so he will be able to control his behavior after he leaves.

What are some ways to capture his heart while you correct his behavior?

You can pray together with him.

This is a home plate issue. You can teach him to connect with God through prayer. By praying with him you can hear his heart and get to know him better. By praying with him he will get to hear your heart and get to know you better. At some point you can lead him in the sinner’s prayer so he can give his heart to Jesus. The best way to guide his heart is to put it under the control of the Holy Spirit.

You can praise together with him.

This is a first base issue. You can teach him to recognize God’s goodness and grace in His life and give praise to God regularly. You can let him hear your expressions of praise and thanksgiving to God. You can make sure you get your family to church so he can learn to worship and praise with you and your church family.

You can play together with him.

This is a second base issue. Spending time with him on the lake fishing, or in the woods hunting, or in the back yard playing catch, or hiking together can create a closeness that opens lines of communication. Unguarded moments lead to deeper insights into his heart and mind. Those moments are invaluable and instructive. It also breaks down some his defenses and allows him to hear you at a more intimate level.

You can plan together with him.

This is a third base issue. Teaching him to order his time, set his schedule and establish priorities is a very practical way of shaping his behavior and capturing his heart. Knowing what is right and what is best is a huge help in doing what is right! Learning effective planning is a life-long lesson!

I hope you will find these suggestions helpful as you work to have your kid sitting on the inside while he sits on the outside. Capturing his heart as you correct his behavior is a massive head start in building a successful satisfying life!

What do you need to stop doing to guide your kid better?

What do you need to keep doing to guide your kid better?

What do you need to start doing to guide your kid better?

Sunday, October 11, 2015

October 12, 2015

"Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self? Whoever is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of them when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels." Luke 9:23-26

Once you have seen Jesus and understand Who He is, you can never be the same! Peter's confession of Christ shaped his life forever! It was his defining moment.

How did it define his life?

First, it defined His meaning.

Peter was a fisherman become follower. Jesus had promised him He would become a "fisher of men". But had that happened yet? No really. So, what value is there in being a non-fishing fisherman? Not much.

Fully knowing Who Jesus was meant that Peter now would fish differently with different bait, a new hook and a bigger net!

His new bait? JESUS!

His new hook? LOVE!

His new net? THE GOSPEL OF JESUS CHRIST!

Second, it defined his mission.

When Peter first decided to follow Jesus he left his nets and his boat to learn about this amazing new Rabbi. He became a follower because of what it could do for him and if it did not work he could always go back to fishing. Peter had a fall back position - a "plan B".

His confession of Jesus would change that forever!

Once you truly understand Who Jesus is and confess Him as Savior and Lord, there is no more "plan B". Either you are all in or you are out! Peter understood that. His mission was to be fully committed to making Christ known to others. The news was too good to keep! Evangelizing became His purpose and His top priority.

Committing to Christ marks the end of casual, aimless living!

How did he do? Read the first several chapters of Acts!

Third, it defined his message.

When you know Who Jesus is, how can you stay silent about it? When you have witnessed miracles and seen people delivered and the dead raised, how can you not tell others about that? You can't! You must!

Others needed to hear it and Peter needed to tell.

How did he do? Read the first few chapters of Acts!

Once you understand Who Christ is and once you confess Him it should dramatically and fundamentally change you! It should change your meaning - has it? It should change your mission - has it? And it should change your message - what are you talking about?

October 11, 2015

"For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, GODLINESS" II Peter 1:5-6

One of the embarrassing moments of my mediocre athletic career happened when I was playing High School baseball for the Warsaw Tigers. I came to bat with runners on  base and a chance to knock them in with a base hit. The pitch came and it was a late-breaking curve that I started to swing at but then tried to hold up on my swing. However, my bat went too far and made contact with the pitch resulting in a weak little ground ball that the first basemen easily scooped up and tagged the base. I was out. Upset at myself, I  took off my batting helmet as I crossed first base and slammed it to the ground so hard that it bounced back higher than my head.

My head coach was coaching first base and as I turned to head back toward the dugout he was standing there in the coaching box waiting for me. He was clearly angry and he lit into me about how I not only made myself look bad but I made the whole team and Warsaw High School look bad.

I had never seen him so upset and I knew he was right and was justified in his scolding of me. I immediately apologized as I realized I had only thought about myself and my own frustration and forgot that I represented Warsaw Community High School and the WCHS athletic program.

In my disappointment with myself for making an out I lost sight of my "Tigerness".

That is a picture of what Peter means when he call on us to "add to our faith.....godliness..."

What is Godliness?

Godliness comes from the Greek word "eusebia" and is used in the New Testament to express the idea of inner piety or spirituality. Vine defines this word as, "piety, which, characterized by a God-ward attitude, does that which is well pleasing to Him." Thayer says, "Reverence, respect, in the Bible everywhere piety towards God, godliness." And, Arndt and Gingrich says it refers to, "the duty which man owes to God piety, godliness, religion."

Thus, there are two parts to godliness. First, there is the "God-ward attitude" of "reverence and respect." Second, there also is the "doing of what is pleasing" to God, as the "duty" that we owe to Him.

Just as Coach Bock sternly admonished me for embarrassing the team with both my attitude AND my actions, Peter urges these believers to "think like God and act like God".

Godliness loves God and lives like it loves God. Godliness thinks and acts like God so that others think well of God and want to know Him as well.

Do you love God? Do your actions show it?

Friday, October 9, 2015

October 10, 2015

“Then the Lord said to Moses, “See, I have chosen Bezalel son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah, and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with wisdom, with understanding, with knowledge and with all kinds of skills— to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver and bronze, to cut and set stones, to work in wood, and to engage in all kinds of crafts. Moreover, I have appointed Oholiab son of Ahisamak, of the tribe of Dan, to help him. Also I have given ability to all the skilled workers to make everything I have commanded you: the tent of meeting, the ark of the covenant law with the atonement cover on it, and all the other furnishings of the tent— the table and its articles, the pure gold lampstand and all its accessories, the altar of incense, the altar of burnt offering and all its utensils, the basin with its stand— and also the woven garments, both the sacred garments for Aaron the priest and the garments for his sons when they serve as priests, and the anointing oil and fragrant incense for the Holy Place. They are to make them just as I commanded you.” Exodus 31

This is the fascinating story of two Home Run Kids, named Bezalel and Oholiab. Strange names but it is an inspiring story that modern parents need to hear. If you are trying to Raise Home Run Kids this story is for you for several significant reasons:

1) God Chooses Kids!

God wanted a tabernacle built where He could dwell with His people and where they could come to meet with Him and worship Him.

This would be an elegant place of worship even though it would be a portable one. It would be befitting of the Great Jehovah, God of the Hebrews.

He needed committed craftsmen who were willing and able to tediously craft the elegant artifacts that would be used in the worship of the Lord.

So, He chose and called Uri’s boy and Ahisamak’s son to do it! God called their kids for a special sacred project that would bless an entire nation!

Here’s the exciting part – God has chosen your kid, too. That’s why it is crucial that you raise him to be a Home Run Kid!

2) God Enables Kids He Chooses!

I remember when God placed the call to ministry on my heart. I tried to deny it and evade it mostly because I lacked self-confidence. My problem wasn’t because I didn’t want to serve God in such a demanding position as pastor but I just didn’t think I had what it took to do it. I confided that reluctance to my Youth Pastor and what he shared with me changed my life. He said, “Brad, if you are certain of God’s call on your life you can also be certain that His call is His enablement.”

Some 50 years later I have found that to be absolutely true!

God’s statement in these verses also proves that He indeed enables those He calls! He did for them! He did for me! He will do it for your Home Run Kid! Speak that into your Home Run Kid!

3) The Kids God Calls And Enables He Uses To Bless Others For Him!

Among the beautiful items Belazel and Oholiab fashioned with their artistic skills was the Ark of the Covenant! Image that! Imagine if, as a result of your commitment to Raise A Home Run Kid God calls your kid to do something that blesses others and draws them to God!

Remember what the Ark of the Covenant was. It was the very place where God occupied as He dwelt among His people. The consecrated skills of these two craftsmen literally blessed God’s people with His manifest presence!

How would you feel if God chose to use your kid in such a dramatic way? Would that be worth the challenges involved in raising a Home Run Kid?

By the way, God will also enable you to raise the kid He has called and enabled!

October 9, 2015

“Then the Lord said to Moses, “See, I have chosen Bezalel son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah, and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with wisdom, with understanding, with knowledge and with all kinds of skills— to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver and bronze, to cut and set stones, to work in wood, and to engage in all kinds of crafts. Moreover, I have appointed Oholiab son of Ahisamak, of the tribe of Dan, to help him. Also I have given ability to all the skilled workers to make everything I have commanded you:” Exodus 31:1-6

Here’s something you can know for sure every kid will go pro at something. Your kid will, too.

One of the main challenges of Raising Home Run Kids is to help your kid discover the talents, gifts and passions God put in them and then making sure he develops those talents. And you want him to develop like Bezalel and Oholiab did to serve the Lord in a significant way.

The first thing you must do is teach your kid not to be a third base runner. That is his natural tendency since third base is the competency base and people who are competent in what they do are on the road to fame and fortune. Why take the time and effort to run all the bases when you can run directly to third?

When your kid takes short-cuts in life you allow him to short-circuit his life in several ways.

To be successful your kid must come to terms with several crucial issues in his life. Those issues are, “How do I deal with God?” “How do I become a person of character?” “How do I learn to build rewarding relationships with others?”

If your kid is simply a third-base runner running from home to third, he will never learn the valuable lessons of the other bases. And for success to be lasting there must be a spiritual foundation under it. For it to be satisfying there must a personal spiritual connection with God and how can he have that unless he spends time at home plate? Success will also require an ability to relate to people and develop relationships with people. That will be far more difficult if he hasn’t been to second base. Finally, lasting success will require personal character and integrity. Since that is developed around first base a third base runner would be devoid of true character.

A kid allowed to be a third base runner will also struggle to develop a healthy sense of self-worth. Why do I say that? If he spends all his time on the third base line all he will know is work. As a result his identity, his self-worth, and his self-image will be shaped by false values on that side of the diamond.

Godly character, has always been the hallmark of those who practiced the Home Run Life. By character I mean loving God, loving others and loving self. Those character traits are all developed on the right side of the ball diamond – the home plate to second part of the field.

No one has ever been successful in baseball by running the bases backward. There is an order to the game. Runners must connect at home in order to get to first base. Once the runner is on first he wants to get down to second and then on to third base.

Similarly, no one has been successful and happy with a life lived outside of the rules so why would you want to raise you kid that way?

Step up to the plate. Lay down the rules! Play the game in order! Begin today!