You hear it at every wedding and you see it in the Bible and it sounds so wonderful – this thing about “two becoming one”.
How does that happen? It defies any mathematical formula known to man!
Obviously it is talking about unity.
You may think, “Well, if she would just agree with me all the time then we could get along!”
She might think the same thing. One thing is for sure, you can’t agree with one another all the time so how do you achieve unity when two people don’t always see things the same? How do you get it right when only one of you can be right?
To achieve unity and oneness in a marriage you have to learn to fight right and disagree agreeably.
Some of my best friends in ministry are guys that I have had heated disagreements with but because we both love God and we both loved the ministry and we loved each other, we fought through the issue in a godly way and learned to know and love each other even more.
That is what God wants for marriage. And your best chance at learning to fight right is to first learn what is right and fight for that. But how do I know what is right for my marriage? Ask God.
The key to fighting right is to learn what God says is right for your marriage and fight for that. That means that if my idea or my desire does not line up with what God’s Word says is best for my marriage then I give that up for the good of the relationship.
Several things that NEVER work and should be out of bounds in a fight:
1) Never drag up things from the past
2) Never resort to name calling
3) Never raise your voice
4) Never withhold sex as a weapon
You and your spouse should set down and establish rules for how to fight right. Use the Bible as your rule book.
What will you do today to help you fight right?
Will you fight through your disagreements and fight your way to a better marriage?